TUESDAY – SEPT. 7, 2010 – REPEAT AIRS TODAY: OPRAH SHOW – Survivors who were victims of Tony Alamo’s physical and sexual abuse tell their story.
Oprah
September 7, 2010
Women Who Claim They Were Child Brides
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How One Woman Escaped Tony Alamo’s Compound
Escaping Tony Alamo
OPRAH SHOW SUMMARY
Jeanne, Amy, Nikki and Desiree, four women who share a dark secret, are stepping out of the shadows to tell their stories publicly for the first time.
At first glance, Jeanne, Amy, Nikki and Desiree don’t seem to have much in common. Jeanne is a 31-year-old hotel clerk, and Amy is a 26-year-old working mom. Desiree is an 18-year-old who dreams of becoming an FBI agent, and Nikki is a 26-year-old bartender.
Despite their differences, these women are bonded by the horrors they say they experienced as children. Jeanne, Amy, Desiree and Nikki were all born into the Tony Alamo Christian Ministry, which, some say, is a cult.
In the 1980s, Alamo, a self-proclaimed prophet of God, had thousands of devoted followers in the United States, including the parents of Jeanne, Amy, Desiree and Nikki. “When Tony would say that God spoke to him, everyone believed it,” Jeanne says.
At the height of the ministry’s popularity, many followers lived in compounds, including one in Fouke, Arkansas. Outsiders had no idea what was going on beyond the barred windows, but these four women know all too well.
Ex-followers say that by the late 1990s Alamo was living in this sprawling compound with more than a dozen women, some of whom he called his “spiritual wives.” Though no legal documents were ever signed, Jeanne, Amy and Desiree say they were three of Alamo’s “wives.” But when they said their vows, they hardly qualified as women—they were still girls.
Jeanne says that when she was 15 years old Alamo, who was 59 years old and her pastor at the time, forced her to become his spiritual wife and have sex with him. Amy says Alamo made her say vows and submit to his sexual desires when she was 14.
Then, Alamo did something that reportedly shocked even his most devoted followers. Desiree says Alamo made her his youngest spiritual wife when she was just 8 years old. Desiree says Alamo then forced her to have sex with him.
Nikki says she was 15 years old when she realized Alamo planned to make her his next “wife.” Nikki escaped the compound and fled before Alamo had the chance to act.
Jeanne, Amy and Desiree say they lived as Alamo’s “wives” for years and endured abuse before they were able to leave. They eventually fled the compound and left the church that once ruled their lives.
Then, in July 2009, these four young women came face-to-face with Alamo once again. This time, in federal court. Despite pressure from family members and friends who still belong to Alamo’s church, they testified against their former leader.
A jury found Alamo guilty of transporting minors across state lines with the intent to have sex, and he’s now serving 175 years in prison.
Alamo’s attorneys are planning to appeal the case.
Many Americans have never heard of Alamo or his ministry, but Lynn LaRowe, a Texarkana Gazette reporter who’s been covering Alamo’s story for years, says he began making a name for himself in Los Angeles in the late 1960s.
“Tony Alamo said God appeared before him in his body and told him that he needed to go spread the Lord’s message or that he would surely die,” Lynn says.
In 1966, Alamo married Susan Lipowitz and established the Tony and Susan Alamo Christian Foundation. “Susan Alamo actually operated a television ministry,” Lynn says. “Tony Alamo would make cameo appearances as a gospel singer.”
Their ministry gained thousands of followers and became a huge success. Then, in 1982, Susan died of cancer. Former members say that’s when Alamo’s dark side was unleashed.
Alamo reportedly put his wife’s dead body in his dining room, and former church members say he made men, women and children pray over her corpse for almost two years. They were told their prayers would raise Susan from the dead, but when it didn’t work, a former member says Alamo blamed his faithful followers.
Over time, Alamo began to exert more control over members of the Tony Alamo Christian Ministry. He turned his church it into a multimillion-dollar business, built on the backs of devoted followers.
“They spent all of their time either praying or working in some capacity for the ministry,” Lynn says. “They were completely physically, if not psychologically, as well, exhausted. So there was no time for independent thinking.”
Emboldened by his success, Alamo wasn’t afraid to share his radical views with the world. During a 2008 interview with CNN anchor Rick Sanchez, Alamo ranted against the Catholic Church and argued that the Bible implies that puberty is the age of consent.
“I don’t know when girls reach puberty. Most of them around 10, 11, 12, 13, 14,” he said during the interview. “God inseminated Mary at the age of around 10 to 12. Should we get him for having sex?”
Jeanne, Amy, Nikki and Desiree say that when they lived in Alamo’s Arkansas compound, he controlled every facet of his followers’ lives, and threatened violence and eternal damnation if they dared to disobey him. “He was the one who laid down the rules,” Desiree says.
Nikki says Alamo decided everything, from who could get a driver’s license to whom a member could marry.
Jeanne, Amy, Desiree and Nikki say that when Alamo set his sights on a young girl in his congregation, her parents couldn’t say no. In fact, some believed becoming one of his spiritual wives was an honor.
“My mom had told me the only person I was going to marry was Tony Alamo,” Amy says.
Once Alamo “married” a girl, Jeanne says he used her to fulfill his sexual desires. “Tony Alamo had up to 13 wives. About, I would say, half were minors, and he had had sex with every single one of us,” she says. “He preferred the younger ones.”
Four days after Alamo exchanged vows with Jeanne, his eighth “wife,” she says he made her have sex with him. “I did believe that God was telling him that I was supposed to have sex with him, that I was supposed to be his wife, that anything he asked of me, I was supposed to do,” she says.
When Desiree was an 8-year-old little girl who loved playing with dolls, she believed Alamo was a prophet. But, she says, she still felt that what was happening was wrong.
“I just remember Tony bringing me into his room at one point. He laid me on the bed, said the marriage vows, said ‘I do,’ got a wedding ring, and after that, what actually made it final was, instead of a marriage license, you had sex,” Desiree says. “I didn’t know about sex. I didn’t know about any of that. What kept going through my mind was: ‘How can this be right? Isn’t this wrong?’”
Despite what she’d been taught all her life, Nikki says she also felt that Alamo’s manipulation and teachings were wrong. “I thought, ‘If this is heaven and this is what’s going to get me to heaven, I’m going to have to go to hell,’” she says.
Nikki says that in 1999, after she realized she would become Alamo’s next spiritual wife, she took action. Although Alamo had taught her to fear the outside world, she found the courage inside herself to run.
One afternoon, Nikki says she fled the compound. She eluded Alamo’s security guards by running through thick brush for hours. “He sent every person out to look up and down the highways,” Nikki says. “They went through every store, every fast food place.”
After running for miles through the woods, Nikki was exhausted and terrified. Finally, she spotted a house across a field and hurried to the front door. Vince and Karen Coker, strangers who lived in the house, took a leap of faith and invited her to stay the night.
The Cokers offered Nikki a change of clothes, a warm bath and a bed to sleep in. “I remember laying in the bed. I felt a little bit safe,” Nikki says. “I thought, ‘Maybe, maybe they will really help me.’”
While staying with the Cokers, Nikki made up a story about who she was and why she was running. Vince and Karen say they didn’t believe her, but they knew she needed help. They ended up buying Nikki a bus ticket to California, where her mother, Lisa, was living.
When Nikki arrived at her mother’s house, she discovered that her mother was still being controlled by Alamo and his followers.
“I received a phone call from Tony himself,” Lisa says. “Tony told me to have [Nikki] arrested. I said, ‘Tony, I can’t do that.’”
Instead, Lisa packed up her daughter’s possessions and told her to go away. “[It was] one of the saddest moments of my entire life,” Nikki says. “She put me on the bus, and it absolutely broke my heart.”
Alamo allowed Lisa to give Nikki $50 and a bus ticket. “I went all over the country for about three months trying to find somewhere to stay,” she says.
Today, Lisa is no longer a member of Alamo’s church, and looking back, she says she should have done something to protect her daughter. “I believe I was out of my mind to let it happen like that,” Lisa says.
Though Nikki’s mother has since left the church, some members of Amy and Desiree’s families still believe Alamo is a prophet. Their mothers even testified against them in federal court.
“[My mother] hates me now, I’m sure, because I testified against him,” Amy says. “When we were sitting in the courtroom, she called me a ’stinking weasel.’”
Despite her testimony and Alamo’s conviction, Desiree says her mother is in denial about what he did to her and other young girls. “She thinks Tony is really this man of God,” Desiree says.
“So your own mother doesn’t believe you?” Oprah asks.
“No,” Desiree says. Oprah Show producers reached out to Alamo for a statement, but he never responded.
But Alamo’s church, which is still in business, sent us a message. This is part of it, verbatim.
“Tony Alamo has no secret world or child brides. He is the least secret person in the world. His church and he are open daily to the public, and he is very outspoken, as an open book. Oprah and the government media and the Roman Catholics are in conspiracy against him and his whole church.”
In April 2010, Nikki returned to Alamo’s Arkansas compound for the first time since she says she escaped. Her visit brought back many memories.
“A lot of people lost their childhood and their innocence in there,” Nikki says. “That’s what I want people to see and to realize. … Don’t be so blind. Don’t just say: ‘It’s not my business. They’re the neighbors.’ Hell was inside of there.”
If you notice something strange about a neighbor, family member or friend, Nikki encourages you to speak up.
“I don’t care if someone says, ‘It’s not your business,’” she says. “Do you know how desperately bad we needed someone to poke their nose into something that wasn’t their business? And no one did.”
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